It’s weird out there—you’re aging, the world is changing, and the economic landscape is shifting beneath your feet. The things you once cared about suddenly seem so stupid. The things you now care about objectively are. People are dying. Babies are crying. Everyone around you has a crazed look in their eyes. And, each time you meet up with an old friend, or a new acquaintance, or a person you’ve known sort of well for some amount of time, one thing is abundantly clear: they’re going back to school to become a therapist.
When the first friend mentions this, it comes as a delightful surprise. She’s been working at a fancy shoe store that’s really a fancy drug front for far too long. But, when the second, third, and fourth competent buddy with a bachelor’s degree divulges the same update, you may start to wonder—how does this make me feel?
It’s important to note that this phenomenon is beyond your control. We were all fed false promises in our youth about what we could achieve if we set our minds to it, or what we could be if we wanted it enough. Surely, every generation faces this devastating crossroads of actual adulthood. We can’t all be experimental d.j.s forever. Your own therapist had to have decided to become a therapist at some point, right?
But, does having a lot of about-to-be therapists in your life mean that you should become a therapist, too? Does having zero therapists-to-be around you mean that you’re an unexamined brute with no hope for self-actualization? Let’s find out.
- If eight of your friends are slated to become therapists this year, I’m suspicious of your definition of “friend.” I wonder if those same “friends” consider you their “friend.” You may want to discuss the concept of friendship with your very own therapist (who, may I remind you, is also not your friend).
- If seven of your friends are about to become therapists, you have an M.F.A. in acting from a prestigious institution and a handful of legitimate IMDb credits. All seven of these friends are other actors you’ve worked with over the years, or, more likely, participated in an unpaid staged reading alongside.
- If six of your friends are becoming therapists, you’ve thought about becoming a therapist yourself. Many people have told you what a good listener you are. Little do they know, you’re just a freak for gossip.
- If five of your friends are currently completing their M.S.W., you identify as someone who is very good at therapy. You love therapy! You roll your eyes at people you know who are not in therapy when talking about them behind their backs. Your primary goal in your own sessions is to be the best at therapy ever. All you want is to be your therapist’s favorite. Which you are. You know you are.
- If four of your friends are in therapy school, you’re a big feelings baddie. You likely feel an immense amount of nostalgia for nearly everything from your past. You live for reunions, just so you can resuscitate shallowly buried negative emotions. You’re a glutton for punishment, because that punishment leads to more feelings.
- If three of your friends are about to be therapists, that seems kind of unremarkable.
- If two of your friends are getting into that therapy life, you are the child of therapists and have done everything in your power to avoid people who might become therapists. You have almost succeeded, but not quite. Do you want to talk about what might be triggering your sense of failure?
- If one of your friends is studying to be a therapist, it’s your wife and she’s thinking of leaving you.
- If none of your friends are becoming therapists, it’s time to look inward. Perhaps consider . . . therapy? ♦









