2025-11-21 15:00:00
Lunch, Ergo★★☆ One-star Michelin. Three-course set with small snacks, fair price. Service gentle, room quiet. Cod the centerpiece, perfect texture. Paired with Corsican wine, granite pulse, touch of tobacco.
Vosne-Romanée, Bruno Clair, 2022★☆☆ Very young, as stated. Yet elegant already, clear, smooth texture, red fruits. Drinkable but unfinished. Needs cellar rest.
Tyge & Sessil★☆☆ Warm wine bar, candle lit corners, soft whispers of conversation. All organic list, varietal, curated, and deep. Staff cheerful, unhurried. Cozy, slightly crowded.
Blue Velvet, David Lynch★★☆ Mastery of narration still intact even as he later abandons it. Club scenes pure cinema. Atmosphere thick, charged, unreal. Rossellini’s mastery presence.
Deadbeat, Tame Impala★☆☆ Against most opinions, found it enjoyable. Mix of techno, dance, rock. Favorite: Oblivion. Toptips: Dracula, Piece of Heaven, Obsolete, End Of Summer. Also good: Loser, Afterthought.
The Hobbit, Tolkien★☆☆ High hopes for the beginning of Middle-earth, but the magic felt thin. Narrative intrusions broke the rhythm, the songs weighed it down. The spell never fully took hold.
Slussen, Madeleine Pyk★★★
Swedish painter, born 1934, from Konstfack. Works selling for four times estimates. Mastery in simplicity.
2025-11-21 12:44:00
Not a great week. I was braindead yesterday and I was something else completely today. A disturbance in the force, some oxygenated blood not getting where it was supposed to fast enough, a pin prick from a voodoo doll an ocean away...
Sometimes I am the most energetic person in the world and you can see it. Sometimes I am the most energetic person in the world and you can't. Sometimes my nervous system is doing rolling brownouts and it doesn't tell me ahead of time. Today was like that. I'd be really, really locked in for 20 or 30 minutes and then zap.
Brownout. All that energy I was juuuuuust using went away and then it was hard to figure out
where I
was and what I was
doing
or was it thinking
hey there's a ping on Discord I wonder who it is and what it's about loljk it's one of four people and it's about fantasy basketball because it's always about fantasy basketball
Anyway I ended up having a little panic attack and melting down. An hour later I was calmly saying "tomorrow I will try again" and "tomorrow is an opportunity to be better" to my partner while we watched pieces of Hawks/Spurs and Kings/Grizzlies.
The Kings are terrible by the way. No one looks like they want to be there. They should light the beam and blind the fanbase out of mercy. Shout out to Hasan Minhaj, who told me he was a huge Sacramento Kings fan shortly after the Raptors won the 2019 NBA Championship. I'll always remember the story I wrote about him because during the two weeks between interviewing him and the story getting printed and going on newsstands I experienced the worst breakup of my life and lost 17 pounds.
As was the case yesterday (and November 7 and November 10), this is more of a journal entry than a blog post but there was a time when that was what blogging was. Also, my returning to blogging (or whatever) was the logical next step after I successful kept a journal for a while earlier this year. Why go from private to public? I think I like getting thoughts out in a way that might help other people get thoughts out. I'm not really ashamed of my thoughts and feelings but my culture tells me I should be and it took me most of my life to be able to look back at that culture and say "mind ya business" in my bitchiest voice.
==#Also also also:==
^^ Every day the New York Times has an opinion piece that's essentially this pic. I'm not even talking about a specific day or a specific writer except it's almost always Ross Douthat.
==#Also also:==
❤️❤️ There was a time when I would have sold a kidney to have a setup like this at home. I downloaded the pic. I don't know what this feeling is but it feels vaguely sexual.
==#Also:==
Last but not least, turn your speakers up and and press play because it's about gd time for some omfgdogs, as old and as good as any oldie-but-goodie. Ed, we will be friends forever (like, forevvvver) for reasons including but not limited to that you sent this to me like 15 years ago.
🌲 gonna
🌼 go
🌱 touch sleep
🌳 grass slorrp
🌷 now s[oan[obg ag q
Be good to yourself.
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2025-11-21 08:39:00
During my decoupling from almost all online services and apps I had (2016-2018), I was prone to looking at the people around me with concern and judgment about their digital consumption.
It was the typical sort of short-term enlightenment phase you get when you realize something big and change your life around. When you’re a hammer, everything looks like a nail, and because I was so freshly into deleting my social media and installing website/app blockers on my devices, every person on their phone in public was a consumerist victim addicted to the screen in my eyes. The prevalence of that view made it feel like a national emergency, a contagious disease ruining us all.
Smugly, I looked around and thought: Wow, thank god I’m not a zombie anymore! I’m totally in control of my own thoughts and consumer behavior! I’m self-aware and no longer have my attention hijacked! As these people are on their phones endlessly scrolling, I’m reading a non-fiction physical book, which is so much more worthwhile and healthier for my brain and attention span!
I still don’t have social media accounts, and I don’t even need any blockers anymore. My phone isn’t tempting me and neither is my laptop. I’m okay with my screentime.
Since then, I have mellowed out. For one, it became the new normal, and also, I recognized that I made up stories in my head to feel superior to others. The truth is: By looking around, I don’t actually know what anyone else is doing. It’s just a baseless assumption in alignment with my own worldview, a self-serving one at that.
While looking at their phone or tablet, others might be reading an e-book, studying, messaging a friend, doing their shopping list, journaling, making an appointment, searching for recipes, looking at maps or checking off a to-do list. While having their headphones in, they might be listening to a guided meditation, an audiobook or voice messages by friends, or just use noise-cancelling while nothing is playing, or use it as a deterrent for others to leave them alone. I can’t know that.
And even if they aren’t, and they’re playing Subway Surfer or scrolling on TikTok while listening to music, I don’t care anymore. They don’t owe me the opposite, and they aren’t out in public to impress my opinionated ass. Why should they engage with only what I personally think is good?
I will probably see about 10 minutes of this person’s life before never (knowingly) seeing them again, and it’s not nearly enough time to get an idea of their digital habits. Seeing them as someone who can’t sit with their own thoughts, a sort of addict, is an unfair view.
In the end, the places where I noticed the most glued-to-the-phone-behavior were the most boring places known to man. What did I expect looking around in doctor’s waiting rooms and public transport? And why did I have to compare myself to them and come out on top? Why did I feel like rawdogging these moments with no entertainment would earn me a medal?
Ohhh my god you didn’t check your phone so far today? Should we tell everyone? Should we throw a party? Should we invite Cal Newport?1
Related: It may not just be the damn phone.
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2025-11-21 02:42:00
if you try to fix too many things at once, you’ll burn out when you’re tired and drained, and you won’t be able to keep up. instead, pick one thing you really want to improve and commit to it every day for a couple of months.
keep it embarrassingly small like a 1‑minute workout, 1‑minute reading session, 1‑minute meditation, or 1‑minute study. once you feel confident that you’ve built that routine, start adding the next habit on top.
it’s easy to get frustrated when change doesn’t show up quickly. be patient. this is a marathon, not a sprint.
at least that’s how i stay motivated, and maybe it’ll work for you too.
2025-11-20 23:13:00
I've been writing on bear for 6 months now, I'd be lying if I didn't say that it has flown by.
When I initially started, I wanted to write something every single day... I was motivated and excited at the thought of writing every day to and building up an audience of wild fans who hung onto my every word.
That motivation and excitement clearly didn't stick around for very long, but something better happened for me, I realised that my expectations on consistency were due to listening to other people and their expectations of what consistency should be for everyone.
Consistency is the art of doing the same thing, over a long period of time. What it doesn't say it needs to be is how often you do that same thing on the smaller scale. For me, I realised that I only needed to be able to post once a month. That's it. I've been thankful that I've posted more than once every month but I was under no pressure to do so.
The noise around how important it is to post every day wasn't right for me because I wasn't trying to compete for attention, I have no expectations for this blog to be anything other than a hodgepodge (love that word) of different thoughts, ideas and ramblings that will probably not make any difference to anyone but me.
But that's enough.
There's no niche, no problems that I'm solving, no advice, inspiration or entertainment for others. It's all for me.
Selfish? Perhaps.
But I've been able to publish something at least once a month for the last 6 months after having no success previously.
So I'm calling that a win.
Here's to the next 6 months.
2025-11-20 22:24:00
I've always been fascinated by people who use physical notebooks to keep track of things. However, I never really tried it myself. Checking videos of other people and learning about bullet journaling is as far as I would get. Everything of what I do is digital.
20 years ago, when I started working, I did use a physical notebook to keep track of meetings and tasks. However, as more was to be shared online, I took digital meeting minutes, for convenience and something to return to quickly. I also didn't have a system for tasks, so every day, I had a huge list if things, of which I picked a few, only to return to an as big list the next day.
So when task managers emerged, I jumped on the digital bandwagon and never looked back. The same with my note-taking, I went from OneNote to Obsidian to Tana, and have stuck with this for years. I've perfected my setup which helps me keep track of everything going on. Meetings, projects, people,...
The same applies to my personal setup. I've been using task managers for everything I had to do, and when I got an interest in personal note-taking and journaling, I started with Obsidian. I still us it to this day. Although not consistently every day, requiring a catch-up from time to time. But sticking with it, I managed to have a lot of notes I can look back at. Memories, events,... that are easily accessible.
But that manual fascination has never gone away. Earlier this week, via a recommended article list from Medium, I stumbled on The only thing that stopped me from infinite scrolling, of how he fixed certain aspects of his life by using pen and paper.
This intrigued me, as part of our digital addiction comes from the fact that we use our phones for everything. And it's true. If today I would log a habit as complete, I open my phone, go to a specific app to mark the habit as done. This puts me at risk to get triggered to check out other things. Not to mention the different apps I use for different purposes. Again with the risk of getting lost. Sure, I can configure my phone as dumb one, but still, distractions are only a search or swipe away.
Another thing I noticed is that I enjoy physical writing, whether it's writing in a notebook or using an Apple Pencil on my iPad. I enjoy that feeling.
However, before completely diving in, I feel I need to assess whether it's really something for me, and not just a temporary fad. Also, to define what I want to do with it and how, as there are many methods, tools, and gadgets available.
And more importantly, I'll need to get around the FOMO that I'm currently experiencing with this transition. I've been into digital for such a long time, that it feels look losing all of it once I go manual. The question if I still should update my digital notes, resulting in extra work.
But I don't want to let it go.
So for now, I'm going with a tiny experiment, writing some work notes and task observations via an iPad, and logging some of my habits via a physical notebook. Let's see where it'll take me. Maybe in time I can add my story or wins of the day in such a notebook as well.
And maybe I'll learn to let go, that I don't have to keep everything forever.
Do you log everything manually?
Or have gone through a similar transition?
Or use a hybrid manual/digital method?
I'm all ears to hear your experiences.